My heart literally melted when I saw this!
She has so many curls - it is hard to tame her hair.
She ran and hid in her closet...little stinker!
the others are from my phone - sorry they aren't more clear.
All of these are on facebook as well as Landry dancing and being a little stinker. Logan's practice didn't go well - but he finally got out there and interacted.
He was so excited to go to practice...he picked out his baseball stuff- he was carrying around his glove and bat, he wanted to wear his helmet...It is all he could talk about. We got there 10 minutes early - WOW- however, practice was at 6:15 and even though the field was only a few miles away from the house, Logan fell asleep. NOT GOOD! he didn't want to wake up, he didn't want to get out of the car. The tears were already coming - and I knew we were headed for a meltdown. Then, there is a play area right there next to the fields...a big playscape with big slides! So Logan (as well as the other kids) wanted to go play at the play area and not practice. The coach is trying to warm up to him...asking for a high five - Logan looks straight at him and I swear to GOD - screams in his face.."DON'T TALK TO ME RIGHT NOW" I was effing mortified - where did he learn this?? Me of course, because I say it all the time...Logan isn't doing something he is supposed to, I tell him not to talk to me - I'm cooking dinner, I tell JR not to talk to me. I do it all the time - and so Logan decided he would say it too. This is the first time I have ever heard him say it...His favorite thing right now is to say, "Dont talk to me that way." Because everytime I ask him to do something and he throws a fit or yells at me, I tell him not to talk to me that way -so now if I ask him to do something - that is his response. So anyway, I take Logan to the side I get to eye lever and I try as hard as I can to be patient and explain that I know he is upset, but we dont EVER talk to big people that way...all I wanted to do is pop him right in the butt and yell. I was so embarassed, mortified, frustrated, and insecure. the coach went on...explaining the bases Logan was crying and having a complete (loud) meltdown the entire time...the kids started running the bases - I was trying so hard...I would cheer and clap for each child hoping that if I didn't let my frustration show, Logan would pick up on the enthusiasm. When it was Logan's turn, I started running with him...except he was firmly planted in his spot, bottom lips sticking out, arms crossed, tears streaming down his face. It was PATHETIC! My embarassment just kept growing. JR by the way - had given up already at this point...after the first tear from Logan, JR was ready to pack up and go home...he threw his own little tantrum about how he was done..Logan wasn't going to play this year..he was never bringing him out again, he took off work early to be there. He was so humiliated, felt like a bad parent, why is Logan like this...Maybe I should be more strict! My head was literally about to explode..okay not literally - and not my head...more like my mouth...I wanted to say...hmmmm - why does Logan throw fits when he doesn't get his way...look at what your doing...Logan is not quite 4, he is tired, it's dinner time so he's hungry - he sees a park and wants to go play, so he is having some issues...but he isn't doing what you want him to do so you are throwing a tantrum. Geez!
Anyway, so I tried to get Logan to run the bases...it wasn't happening so I said he could just come with mommy and watch from the sidelines...we get over there and JR starts in on how he wants to leave. I said NO - he doesn't have to participate, but he is going to stand here and watch. I told JR that maybe after a little while when he has processed that we aren't going to give in, he will decide to get out on the field...well he did. It was the last 10 minutes of an hour long practice, but he finally got out there. The coach let him bat and run the bases which JR did with him...the team mom, said not to worry, that this was their sons third season and it gets better. I understand where JR is coming from...Logan was the ONLY child who just couldn't handle it...the other kids wanted to play too...their parents said "after practice" just like I did...but none of the kids had meltdowns. The team mom even made a joke and said he was also the ONLY left handed kid out there! LOL So after practice we told him he could go down the slide ONE time...he did, and didn't have a problem leaving...part of me thinks, damn maybe I should have walked him over, let him go down the slide once and then he would have acted better...but a bigger part of me says - screw that - I am the mom, if I say AFTER practice...thats what I mean. Which granted, yes he was tired, and hungry, and probably a little overwhelmed but damn...letting him do something he wants to do even when we say no "just because we dont want to hear him throw a fit" is the bigger part of the problem. JR says I should be more strict...yeah, I probably should be. I am the only one who disciplines the kids - I get tired and sometimes being tired means they get away with more than usual, and sometimes being tired means I dont take any crap what-so-ever. I know there needs to be a constant...I know I can't over react just because I am tired, or under react...but I am freaking human. I could probably benefit from a dose of super nanny - but that isn't going to happen. I am doing the best I can - and sure there is always room for improvement, but for now JR is really lucky that I decided not to talk to him AT ALL last night. I do not need him to tell me what I am doing wrong as a mom and why our son acts the way he does...because I could very easily bring up the fact that the kids could benefit from some more time with their father...and for him to not give in and take the easy road, and for him to be more strict...but saying any of that wouldn't help - especially not in that moment. After dinner we did sit down and he apologized and we did discuss some parenting Logan, and I decided on a game plan for next Thursday's practice. Such as trying to get him to take a nap, and planning dinner out a little better so that he can eat something before practice....or at least some sort of snack. Anyway, the point is, I made him stay, I made him watch, and although it took longer than I had hoped...he did finally realize that he was not playing at that park until AFTER practice...and he got out there and finally participated! I am going to try to take him out there a few times this week, maybe he will get used to the idea...I dont know what else to do....But I know that throwing a fit isn't going to help!!
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Yay! I can't wait to see Logan play tee ball! I've heard that's pretty hilarious...
Hopefully we can get to the hilarious stage...as of right now - its just IRRITATING. I think we started him to early, and only now is JR starting to agree with me! LOL
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