right or wrong?

If you ask your husband to "Please be more aware of leaving things laying around." one night and the next you say..."Can you please throw away your empty soda cans, and will you please start washing out your cereal bowl and putting it in the dish washer." then later that evening you say, "Oh, my gosh, how many times do I have to ask....please, wash off your dishes and put them in the dishwasher." then the next day (and by this time your pretty much annoyed as hell) you say "I am sick and tired of having to ask....PICK UP YOUR TRASH AND THROW IT AWAY! PUT YOUR DISHES IN THE DISHWASHER and stop making me ask you this over and over."

I have now been called a nag for two nights straight...ummm, am I in the wrong here? I feel as though my husband is trying to rebel. If I ask him to go left he goes right. If I ask him to help out with Logan he huffs and puffs. I thought we were getting some where. I thought we were going to make an effort TOGETHER as a team to keep the house clean, so why am I the one cleaning up every night while he is sleeping soundly in the bed? I know that we both make sacrifices and sometimes it is hard to see the other side of things, and as sooon as I calm down I will be able to see his point (at least somewhat) but I also consider this a respect issue. Seriously, how many times do I have to ask you to do something before you do it? And WHY do I have to break everything down for you. I can't just say, Hey I have had a long day and I cooked dinner could you clean up after dinner for me while I give Logan his bath....No, I have to say that, then I have to come back and say...Did you wipe down the table? Did you clean the stove? are the dishes in the sink or in the dishwasher? Did you put away the food? Did you do all the dishes or just forks and silverware?.....NOW THIS seems like nagging....And I dont actually ask all these questions, I simply go check, and whatever hasn't been done I ask him to do, which he usually gets around to doing the next day or the next or the next....or whenever I have asked him so many times that I am furious and cant see straight and end up doing it myself. We have been in the new house for two weeks as of tomorrow, and the first week he was great at helping out....and now, its like pulling teeth...back to the same old JR and I am tired of it! Does he think that I like bitching about all of this...I hate it, I wish I didn't have to ask at all...I wish it was just a habit for him. The fact is...we have another baby coming in five weeks and I am going to need some help! SERIOUSLY! He seems to be PMSing right now...he goes through it about once a month, he gets this attitude with me and he acts like I am asking him to bend over backwards or something. Does he not understand that I am tired too, I take care of a toddler all day, I do all the grocery shopping, I make sure the bills are paid on time, I run all his errands for him, I do his laundry (with the exception of every once in a while when I ask him to help me fold) I do the majority of the cooking...oh and I am 9 months pregnant. Am I seriously asking too much for him to pick up after himself? I know you cant teach an old dog new tricks and all, but geez a little bit of help, a little bit of compromise! PLEASE I am worn out, and it will only get worse from here at least for the next 6-8 months so why is it SO damn hard for him to help out?

Am I being hormonal or do I have a legitimate reason to be venting all of this?