I love my husband...I really do, but there are moments when I feel like I could just strangle him. Not to kill him, of course, but just render him unconcious for a bit!
First, I should say that I "FEEL" that he has not been helping me with the house as much as he should. Part of that is because I have worked long and hard on scrubbing the carpet which has turned into a four day affair and I still have to finish the dining room. So, even though this is only one item to check off a list...it has been rough. Also, I have completed 17 loads of laundry. He hasn't loaded, unloaded, folded, or put away a single article of clothing, so again - it may only be one thing (the laundry), it is seriously much more than that...17 loads - seriously. My friend Nikki and her husband are responsible for their own laundry. She does hers and he does his. Since I am a stay at home mom, I do JR's laundry. It isn't that big of a deal, except that I have to do mine and the kids too, and I just ask for a little bit of help. Is it really too much to want him to put his clothes in the dirty laundry basket and not throw his dirty socks on the living room floor every day when he gets home from work? Is it too much to ask that he does a load of laundry on his own every once in a while? Is it too much to want him to at least put his own clothes away? The truth is, if I throw a big enough fit he will put away his clothes...but I dont want or have the energy to throw the fit anymore. I have also done the dishes every night this week. I went through the toys and threw away a large trash sack full. I did the grocery shopping. I cooked the food, put the left overs away and cleaned the kitchen. I feel like I have been cleaning all week, well - I have, and I still have a lot to do.
JR has helped. Yesterday he mowed the lawn, and he did help me pick up the living room on Sunday. Saturday night he cleaned the office where he has been making his sterio coolers. He had to bundle up 8 big black trash bags of trash...but that was of his own making. I have asked for months for him to clean up that room and it only took me buying him a shop vac for him to accomplish it. He also barbequed the chicken last night. I say this to explain not only to you, but to remind myself as well, that he has done stuff around the house. I just feel like he hasn't really been that helpful. After cooking last night, he ate, then sat on the computer designing something for the new house. Other than cleaning the office, he really hasn't done anything major to help me out and its really frustrating. At 9 last night, he went to bed in Logan's room while I was making Logan's class valentines and when I went to ask why we was sleeping in there, he said it was because I had put laundry on his bed. I had finished the last two loads earlier in the night and folded them and left them on the bed. Sure, I should have put them away, but I was really busy and intentded to do it later...but seriously, he knew I was busy and if he was that tired, he could have put the laundry away for me and then gone to bed. UGHHHH
Luckily, I held my tongue, got the laundry put away, and told my husband to go to bed. Today, after listening to him talk about the kids getting on his nerves last night and how tired he was, I very calmly told him that I needed him to help out more. He was on the computer all night, I didn't see how the kids could possibly bother him since he paid them very little attention, and as for being tired, I know he has been working a lot lately but he got off early yesterday, took an hour and a half nap, mowed the grass, barbequed chicken, spent 2.5 hours on the computer then went to bed. I simply stated that that behavior can be tolerated here and there, but not when your wife is slaving away. Taking note of what is going on around him would be greatly appreciated...and at the same time I understand him being tired. I would rather him just discuss this with me, find out what I need help with, and if he needs the extra rest - then communicate.
I have to say, it was much better than the arguing matches that usually occur when I feel like he is being lazy. But seriously, he can't just keep saying hey I cleaned the office, and have it compare to all the work I have done. It isn't a competition, but I just feel like he could have done the dishes, or put the food away. Seriously, either one would have taken less than 5 minutes. Anyway, hopefully he will keep that little talk in mind when he gets home tonight. I honestly dont expect the chores around the house to be equal. I know its part of my job...but I do expect him to help out a little, and he is nearly 29 years old...the man can put his damn clothes in the laundry hamper, I shouldn't have to go behind him and pick his crap up off the floor.
Okay, done venting.
They are finishing up my house today!!! They had a whole crew of workers doing touch ups and finishing every little thing up. The new closet door was there but not installed yet. All the appliance will be delivered and installed tomorrow...washer, dryer, refrigerator, stove, and microwave! (the dishwasher is already there). I can't wait to see it all in there. The appraisor comes tomorrow as well. JR says it probably wont be until Monday or Tuesday before he sends the report to the bank, but I am hoping he will send it immediately on Friday so that Wells Fargo can just fax it to the USDA. There may be a few more little things that need to be done after tomorrow, but pretty much after tomorrow we will just be waiting around for two weeks waiting to hear back from USDA and then we will close. Oh, and of course during those two weeks they will fix anything that we find when we do our walk through, and they will get the landscaping done! So 3 more weeks, and then you get to see pictures and read all about the moving, the installing of hardwood floors (which we get our samples of today - we ordered 5 samples of flooring so we still have to pick out our winner), the painting, and the putting together of the house! Aren't you excited??? I know I am! LOL
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