Yesterday was my mom and dad's 24th wedding anniversary! Kinda crazy, right? You have probably figured out from the previous sentences that my dad is not my biological father. My older sister and I have the same father from my mom's first marriage. She was 18 when she got married and 5 years and 2 kids later they got divorced. My parents were married on June 7, 1987, and had Vanessa in Feb. 1989. After Vanessa was born my bio father signed over his rights, and my dad legally adopted my older sister and I! I haven't seen my bio father since I was 3 (I think), so obviously - I don't consider him anything but a sperm donor.
Anyway, I called my parents yesterday to wish them a happy day! Of course I called each one separately because in their own extremely oddly normal way, they hadn't even spoken to each other. Ha! Honestly, I hope that my marriage never turns out the way theirs has. However, no matter what, I know they have an overall general love for each other. Every once in a while life seems to take hold...I find myself in a complacent state - IN EVERYTHING! motherhood, life in general, marriage. It seems that I get so wrapped up in doing the everyday things that they all just run into one - I can't tell one day from another. So - I like to do something whacky. Something different, because I want to be better. I think sometimes people get so comfortable playing the role they think they are supposed to that they forget to be a little impromptu. Sometimes, it is something really simple, such as, turning off all the lights- tv, computer...everything then we make a couch fort, get a flash light and we just talk...or read books! IT's kind of fun...a little silly, but its fun! Anyway...I sure hope that 24 years from now, I am more in love with JR than I am today...IT's one thing to be happy and comfortable in a marriage, but I hope to be happy, comfortable, and head over heels in LOVE.
As for my parents...they may no longer be IN love with each other...maybe they are, who am I to say - maybe they show it in different ways....but I have to admit, doing anything for 24 years should be celebrated no matter what! They are both handfuls - so really it's a miracle they lasted this long! LOL
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Yahoo just had an article about how couples in a low confrontation, low excitement marraige are doomed to get divorced quickly. Ironic! I try to keep things lively between Travis and I. Sometimes we get in a rut of doing the same thing over and over again and I try to shake things up.
I think that's why I like going out to do something every weekend. It helps break up the monotony. Therefore keeping life interesting. =D
Well, the first 10 years of their marriage were definitely not what I would call low in confrontation! LOL Maybe that's why they haven't divorced yet...I love them to death, but part of me thinks they should just get a divorce, they might be happier that way - but then what do I know? It's scary because I see so much of myself in my mom, but at the same time it's good, because I know when I go over to the insane side of things - I am more aware of what's happening. Not that I always handle it in the best way, but I am constantly trying to learn a better way.
I think it's easy to get in a pattern of doing things - ESPECIALLY when you have kids. We try to change things up a bit here and there - but I have found that just behaving differently can help too. Or NOT picking a fight over BASEBALL! lol Your right though, any little changes I can find to break up the monotony of our life can surely liven it up a bit...even if its just for an hour!
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