So, after I had Logan, I didn't have ANY friends that also had children. I tried to meet other parents, but it never worked out. I really didn't have anyone to compare my child to...except from the magazines that I read. We got to a point where I was concerned about Logan's speech. He said basic things but couldn't string together 3 word sentences. I took him to the doctor who looked at his ears and suggested I get his hearing checked. I made an appointment. Logan passed with flying colors. That doctor told me I should see a behavioral specialist. I made an appointment. She asked me all kids of questions and spent an hour with Logan before telling me that he was not on the Autism spectrum. She said that I could try a speech therapist to help him with it or I could just wait and that he would talk when he was ready. So we waited. And waited. And waited. Finally around 2 1/2 he started going and by 3 he wouldn't shut up. He talks constantly now...seriously, CONSTANTLY! He is NEVER quiet. LOL I, however, am still concerned about how far behind he is. The truth is - he never leaves the house without me. I was visiting with a friend the other day and he was talking to her...she understood most of what he was saying, but every once in a while she would look at me and I would have to "translate". That was the first time I realized that other people might not understand everything he is saying....I do - because I am always with him. The past couple of days I have read a few blogs where my friends have listed their kids accomplishments. This is a love/hate thing for me, because I love to know what those kids are up to and how they are doing...but then I ALWAYS compare them to my child and then feel like a crappy mother when my kid cant do something their's can. If the kids are the same age, it isn't such a hard pill to swallow. But, for example, Blair - will be 3 at the end of March and Logan - will be 4 at the end of March. Logan is a full year older than Blair, and yet Logan can only count to 10...Blair is up to 20. Logan doesn't know all of the alphabet...Blair has been singing it for a while now. This just makes me feel like a horrible mother. I should be spending more time a day working with him on this..he is going to be so behind when he starts school this year. He has his first T-ball practice on Saturday...what if all the other kids make fun of him...I dont know what to do. Have I completely screwed up my child?? Pretty much, yes. Awesome! I am terrific.
Moving on to Landry...she says Mama, Dada, baba, and butter (which is brother for Logan) but that is it. She babbles all the time, but never tries to form other words. So I guess she will be behind as well. She is in to this copying stage right now, so I try to get her to say some words, sometimes it works, but mostly she just ends up making noises. I hate to sit here and worry so much about it, but I do. I wish I could sit back and relax like the doctor told me and let them do things on their own time. But what if their own time is SLOW...School was always so easy for me. I never had an issue until college calculus...and perhaps if I would have gone to class, I would have done better!!! JR tests at an almost genius level...so they have smart parents...what is wrong with them...Have they inherited my sister's genes? Oh, geez - I know I sound pathetic, but I am really worried. I know how mean kids can be and I just dont want my kids to be picked on for being slow. I guess we will be working an extra 30 minutes on counting past 10 and Letters...
ps...no, my book is still not here. According to UPS website, the sender requested that it be sent to the local post office for delivery...so maybe I will get it today..I stopped counting on it though. I love that I paid extra money so that it would get here faster. I didn't want to have to wait 7-10 days...I wanted in 3-4! Glad I wasted the money, because it gets here to day, that means it took 8 days...YAY! An extra $6 for nothing! My husband better drop 15 pounds in the first 17 days...that is the only way that this will be worth it! LOL
2 comments:
You seriously should not stress. You have KNOW that kids all learn at different speeds and everyone catches up to one another. You are a great mother. You are caring and compassionate and just the fact that you care THAT MUCH shows that you are doing everything correctly. Blair is not at any higher levels in any way. He is a daycare kid! He learned those things through them! LOL...we do encourage it, but let me tell ya, those kids really learn from each other. Kinda like Aiden and Blair re-enforcing each other on things like playtime, bouncing on the trampoline, etc.
If you are that concerned, do more playdates :).
You are a GREAT MOTHER...don't ever doubt that!
Thanks Alexa - I do know that every kid goes at their own pace. 9 out of 10 days I can tell you that I am an amazing mom, but every once in a while I feel like I am failing. Am I doing enough? I guess its just that mommy insecurity that pops up here and there. I would love to do more play-dates. My biggest problem with that is that I truly dont know any other moms that have kids in the same age category as Logan and Landry. Except for my sister...and her kids are 5 and 8...so they are a bit older, but I love that Logan can be around them and learn from them...but I hate that they aren't disciplined AT ALL, and aren't always a positive influence on him...so that is kind of a double edged sword.
Luckily, Logan will have his first T-ball practice tomorrow, so I am hoping that being around other kids in the 4 yr old age group will be great for him and me. I am hoping to meet some other moms, maybe develop some relationships and encourage play dates. For Logan, being around other kids his own age would be such a blessing. I want him to interact and learn more social interaction. I am crossing my fingers and hoping for the best!
Also, JR and I have gone back and forth on the daycare debate, and with only one income...staying at home always wins, due to finances...but he will be going to pre-K come Sept. this year, and hopefully if he is behind in any way it wont take him long to catch up!!!
Anyway, thank you for reminding me that I am a good mom. I shouldn't get so crazy over these things...I just want what's best for my babies!
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