Family

hmmm....it seems as though my sister is going down a dark path in life and I really dont know what to do. For the last week, JR and I have been talking about how irresponsible she is. I seriously hate to say this or even right this...but here it is - She is a terrible mother. I know she loves her kids but I dont think she loves them more than she loves herself. Two weeks ago she took her kids with her to meet up with her dealer to get her weed. What in the hell she was thinking - I have no idea. But then again, she drinks while she drives - with her kids in the car and when I say something to her she responds with, "I never drink enough to get drunk when I am driving." ummmm...ok! She is stealing prescription medications from my mom, dad, and her patients at work. She carries around aderol, vicadin, hydrocodone, xanax, anxiety medicine, and other stuff I am sure...I try to explain to her that if she was to get pulled over for a tail light or anything and they smell alcohol on her breath - that is an immediate search of her car - which means they will find the weed, and the drugs. This in turn, means she is going to jail - possibly prison - she will lose her job, she will lose her kids, she will lose her home because she can't live with me, and my parents aren't going to keep her, she will lose EVERYTHING. She will never get a job in the medical field, so she might as well forget about finishing school to be an RN...not that I think she will finish anyway - but whatever...she doesn't listen. It wont happen to her.
So last night JR and I start talking about her again and as if on cue she calls. She says she needs to "rent out my room for the night" I asked her what was going on, she repeats herself tells me she needs to rent out my room and that they will be gone early in the morning to get her kids to school. She already called in to work so its no big deal, she has everything worked out except for a place to stay. HMMMMM - so why can't you go home? She says something about how Dad isn't going to be home...WHAT? Why does that matter? She says, sara - I need a place to stay tonight, Todd is stranded and he's been with me since this afternoon. We will only be there for a short amount of time.....WAIT....HOLD ON....Todd? you want to come stay at my house with your children who have school tomorrow and a man that I dont really know????? Ummm, no I am sorry, but I am not comfortable bringing in a man that I hardly know around my children. Of course this shocked the shit out of her...and she tries to guilt me into by saying, "so you aren't comfortable with your sister and neice and nephew staying with you" I told her I obviously didn't have a problem with that since they are here all the time, but I am not comfortable with a strange man staying in my house. SORRY.
Really??? Am I crazy? HELL NO I am not crazy, she doesn't make good choices, and if it was anyone else I would give them the benefit of the doubt, but she if friends with pot heads, drug users, and registered sex offenders...so nope - she doesn't have a good track record on friends. I am not saying that Todd is a bad guy, but I just dont know him.
I am so pissed that she even put me in the position and asked, and JR is almost positive that Todd didn't have a place to go because his baby's momma probably walked in on him and Randi in some compromising position and kicked him out, which is why Randi was so compelled to fix the problem....Now I think its a good possibility that is what happened but I dont know for sure..but seriously your going to be 30 years old in August...Grow the fuck up. I called my dad and told him the whole story...I am not going to help her get away with lying and manipulating. Of course, my dad did nothing. And Randi, finally arrived home and spun some story to him which he chooses to go along with. I am seriously contemplating writing the Dr. Phil show. I can't help her...I have been here for nearly a year, and my influence hasn't changed her. My parents cant and aren't helping her...she has lived with them for 3 years in May and she hasn't shown any signs of responsibility, and while she needs help - the people that are suffering the most are an 8 years old little girl who is behind in reading and has to go to a special class and given extra reading help and homework, who has no idea what it means to respect someone because she sees no examples of it and a 5 year old little boy who is the biggest manipulator I have ever seen at that age (I wonder where he learns it). My prediction for these kids...both will be drinking, doing drugs and having sex by 14. Isabella will be pregnant by 17 and Isaiah will get his girlfriend knocked up at 16. Makes me want to cry...oh wait I already have.