Stressed Again

The last blog I wrote was before we went to my parents house for the fourth of July. JR and I got to do everything we wanted to do and had a lot of fun. We left here about 2:00 on Thurdsay and drove straight to Round Rock to watch the AAA baseball game, I got a little tipsy but it was so much fun! My dad met us there which was really nice to get to spend some time with him. We didn't get back to my parents house until after midnight and Logan woke up the next day at 7:30...Grrrr.

On Friday we sat around waiting for the rest of the family to wake up, the JR and I got dressed up to go get engagement pictures taken down by the river. They turned out really nice, so I am happy about that. Afterwards we went home to change and the two of us went golfing! I actually did really well for my first time...at least I think so. I didn't want to be there for forever, so I only played the last nine holes and JR shot a 96 which he was happy with. My dad made steaks for dinner and that was pretty much all we did for the fourth!

On Saturday we waited around the house for my sister and another girl to get off work so that we could all go float the river. We didn't get out there until 3:30 and the minute we got in the water it started raining!!!! Of course the minute we got out of the river it stopped raining. Even though it rained the whoe time JR and I actually had a lot of fun, and my mom got to go with us which was really cool because she isn't really in to doing things like that.

Sunday we drove home, rested for a bit and then went over to Nikki and Travis' house to play a game of cards...JR won!

Basically it was a really awesome weekend, except for one thing. My mom pulled me outside to "talk" and basically told me that I need to start all over with the wedding plans. She pretty much picked apart everything we have already planned. I know that sounds bad, and trust me it was...however, I really think she just went about it the wrong way. I think the point she was trying to make was that she wants me to have a really nice wedding and a very special day and she wants us to have fun and have everything that we really want, but they just dont have a whole lot of money to spend for the occassion. Instead she just told everything was wrong and bad and horrible, and I needed to just start over!

The original date we had set was July 11, 2009...this is the best time to have it and not conflict with a whole lot of poeples schedules...she said it was too long to be engaged to someone I have already lived with for 2 1/2 years and have a child with. So we tried to change it to March 14, which is my Dad's spring break (he's a high school football coach, so basically the end of July through December is out) but Vanessa, my sister and in college, has her spring break from the 20 - 29. So we thought maybe the 21st of March...nope...our son's birthday is the 23 and we dont want to miss that. Then we thought okay maybe Jan. 10, Vanessa doesn't start classes until the 13th from Christmas break, but she goes to school in Arkansas and she does the filming for the football team there, so she may have to go back early. So now we are at March 28, which will kind of suck for Vanessa because she will have to leave the day after the wedding and drive 12 hours to get back to school before classes start on Monday! Basically, we have no idea! This is a problem because...IF I ever find a venue for the wedding, in order to book the venue I will need to know what date to book it for!

I spent all day yesterday looking at more venues and will be doing some "go sees" tomorrow, so hopefully I will find the place I want tomorrow, send some pictures to my mom, she will agree with the place and the price and help me with a date that doesn't conflict with all their schedules....I am seriously starting to think I am just going to keep July 11, and say screw them if they dont like it. I mean the other thing I have to think about is if I have it March 28...It might be fine for Vanessa and my Dad, but what about all the other family I have that has kids in school??? That might not be their spring break, and who wants to spend money going on a vacation for spring break only to get back and then go out of town again? Then again they will all know months in advance when the date is, so they should be able to figure something out or save a little extra for trip out of town for my wedding!

The good thing about the March date is that it is right after income tax returns, so we will be able to use some of that money on the honeymoon....if we wait until July, there is a good chance we will have spent it by then!

Got any ideas or advice??? Please let me know!!!